Today I’ve reviewed some of the game basics and affirmatively gone over some don’t that I may still be struggling with as sticking points. I decidedly grounded myself in the things that brought me success and realised I was stuck in a negative loop with the depressingly toned blog posts I wrote on Saturday. It’s normal and expected that when someone goes through a learning experience, learning new behaviours and implementing advice from people who are already more successful, that you will have highs and lows. I shouldn’t beat myself over it, I have no reason to worry about it much.
Some of the things that I’ve been meaning to write about is attraction. David DeAngelo’s catchy slogan springs to mind “Attraction isn’t a choice.” Attraction is the first element of game that you must spark in a girl you’re interested in if you want to be successful with her. Without attraction you will be disrespected, ignored and seen as an average frustrated chump. And women want a man that knows what he’s doing, has achieved some kind of success in his life, has life experience, takes care of himself and his tribe, all those basic ideas about being an alpha Male and ultimately shows some kind of social intelligence.
Attraction is a very complex beast in its own right and involves a lot more than what you could fathom on its surface. Having standards can be seen as attractive, in respect to being a man of character and displaying masculine qualities that are desirable with an ability to be vulnerable in a masculine manner. A lot of attraction is based on subcommunication. Subcommunication is the paralanguage of your speech, your non verbal communication and the elusive obvious interpretations of communication that display your world view. When a woman feels an attraction for a man she desires and longs for, what does she experience? Is it a guy level feeling or is it something in her head that tells her “Oh I actually find this guy attractive”? There’s a major difference between being able to fall in love and feeling Attraction. As Ross Jeffries once said “Falling in love happens when she thinks about you when you are not around” whereas attraction happens through a mental and emotional processing of communication and subcommunication.
Some of the key ingredients to spark that attraction are all of the key indicators of a high sexual market value (SMV) that a woman values in a man. Things like a good physique, intelligence, social intelligence, strength of character, strength of frame, ability to provide for a family, ability to protect his family, and desired by other women. These are a few off the top of my head. They are important because they are primarily linked to the evolutionary psychology of sexual selection and not based in logic. Women rarely relate to logic the way men do. Never try to logic your way into a girls pants because it doesn’t work.